Just For Today, I Will Not Anger

Anger is such a difficult emotion to express. If we speak in anger sometimes it can make things worse, it can be hurtful and do damage to relationships. But to hang onto anger is not healthy and toxic to ourselves and our bodies.

So how do we move through anger? It’s something I can say with complete honesty that I haven’t got totally figured out.

But in case this helps anyone, here are some steps might help.

😤express the emotion in the moment if you can, if it’s a safe time where it won’t negatively impact or harm yourself/others. However you express this, wether it be yelling, some strong language, or a body gesture, is up to you.

🙊if it’s not a space where you can express the emotion in a positive way, then move through the situation as needed and acknowledge your feelings and anger. It doesn’t help to repress or bottle it, so for now acknowledge that’s it’s there.

📝when you’re home and have some space writing a letter or journaling can help. It’s a great way to let your emotions and thoughts out.

🏃🏼‍♀️excercise is a fantastic way of releasing energy and you can run, power walk, cycle or even use a boxing bag to help release all that tension and frustration. If possible, it might be helpful to verbally articulate how you feel as well while you’re engaging in physical activity.

🤷🏼‍♀️can you accept the situation as it is? Ask yourself if the situation is really in your control or even to do with you. At times we find ourselves triggered by events that we have no need to hold onto.

🧘🏼‍♀️meditating and using visualisations to imagine your anger washing away down a river, becoming a cloud and drifting away can help as well.

🗣️Perhaps the most important one is speaking about it, ideally with the person involved. Venting to friends is great, but does it solve the situation? If you choose to talk to the person directly, approach it calmly, use “I feel” statements rather than “you”, and try to discuss the situation with them rather make it a personal attack or accusation, as the other person will usual respond in a similar way, and you’re back to where you started.

Bottom line, anger is a useful emotion and can prompt us to make great change! But only if we use that in a healthy way. Be kind to yourselves and others. We’re all doing the best we can in this thing called life.

Be well and happy x

Emma

#GriffithReiki

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